Things Need to Change

Oh man…my mom’s companion just pissed me off…they just yanked mom up from where she was sitting so they could sit down, because mom was sitting in “their seat.”

Mom was sitting there so peaceful and then suddenly, she is yanked up.

Where mom was originally sitting comfortably next to me.

I said, “why are you doing that?”

Response, “it’s my seat.”

I said, “so? They take my seat all the time!”

No response.

I said, “that’s so selfish.”

No response.

Mom and Bob Chilling

I just don’t understand how someone can be so selfish and callous. What did my mom ever do to you?

When will this person ever learn to not be so selfish? Maybe never, I’m guessing. I’m so sick of this.

So, because mom’s brother in law is here and sitting where mom would usually sit, said “companion”, yanks mom up and takes her to the couch where no one is, so they can have “their spot.”

No amount of words or intervention seems to make this bad behavior stop. They are determined to have what they wants at any cost; power and control.

Said, “companion”, didn’t even stay in their seat, they went to put the food away. So, mom could have stayed there resting peacefully.

Such a nasty person. Self serving. Thinking about one’s self.

We have dealt with behavior issues MORE from mom’s companion over the years, than mom herself.

We have dealt with verbal abuse, mental abuse and physical abuse.

Reporting it was not even an option, as I was the one home with my mom all day over 6 1/2 years, while mom’s companion worked all day, (sometimes into the next morning or entire weekends).

When mom’s companion wasn’t working, mom’s companion was on vacation, while still I’m here with mom.

I have pretty much cared for mom with little help, since diagnosis. Yet, I have no legal power to just take mom, because her companion has Durable Power of Attorney and has even refused to go into a DUAL DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY with me. Because, in their words, “I HAVE CONTROL. I HAVE THE POWER!”

It’s clear I need to file for guardianship. Not just because of this incident. No, this is just the tip of the iceberg. And this kind of behavior has been going on for years.

I have known I need legal help for years. But, lack of funds to do it has interfered.

I once tried to contact a pro Bono lawyer. They told me they could only consult with me. They can’t go to court with me.

I don’t know how I will do it. But, I plan to find some kind of legal help, somehow.

I can’t wait until I get mom, Bob and I out of here.

I want my mom to have peace and peace definitely doesn’t live here. But, I will make sure it happens. I will make sure we have peace.